Most of the sense of “crisis” in midlife is when the split or gap between our inner sense of self and the acquired personality becomes so great that the struggle can no longer be suppressed or compensated for.
WE GLIMPSE OUR ORIGINAL WOUND AS WE WATCH BECOMING AWARE OF OUR FEELINGS, REACTIONS, CHOICES WITHIN CONTEMPORARY LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS AS WE LIVE IN THE ORDINARY.
The transit of the Middle Passage occurs in a deep uncomfortability between the acquired personality and the demands of the true SELF.
The first must die. No wonder there can be such enormous anxiety.
We are all summoned psychologically and spiritually to die unto the old self so that the new might be born.
As we die to the old parts of ourselves through awareness and integration, we resurrect into that which has always been from inception.
The first half of life are our building blocks they might be viewed as stumbling blocks.
We never look to get rid of the old, we are in process looking to become aware of what all the threads are; why we wove them in and accept them; befriend them as a necessary part of the fabric of who we are.
This death and rebirth is never an end in itself: it is passage.
It is necessary to go through this middle passage from the first half of life into the second half of life to more nearly achieve our potential and to earn the vitality and wisdom of mature aging and spirituality/relationship with self.
This middle passage is a summons from within to move from the false self to authenticity, from the adopted life to true adulthood and a deeper, more authentic relationship with self.
James Hollis speaks volumes of this in his writings.
He says: “A spiritual tradition that is only received from history or from family makes no real difference in a person’s life, for he or she is living by conditioned reflexive responses. Only what is experientially true is worthy of a mature spirituality.
Experiential spirituality will stretch us, sometimes, test us, but will always ask us to be larger than we wish to be.
The mature spirituality that we all seek, will seldom provide us with answers, but will instead ask ever-larger questions of us.
Large questions will lead to a larger life.
A mature spirituality is critical for the second half of life because if we do not address that which is from our first half of life directly, we will continue to drag the received values, attitudes, beliefs, and reactions which continue to delude, divert, or diminish us.
WE NEVER GET RID OF THE FIRST HALF OF LIFE BUT WE ARE INVITED TO KNOW IT AND CARRY IT DIFFERENTLY.